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How to motivate your coworkers through change…

18 Okt

Have you ever struggled with disengaged and unmotivated coworkers…. and wondered why it can be so hard to get them onboard…? It could be as part of a project, initiative, implementation – or in the everyday business… We often hear about building trust and creating an emotional connection to the wished position and business objectives… relying on elaborate plans and sophisticated communication to do the job… a template approach for how to create a movement and implement change…

Motivation-squareBut it doesn’t always work that way does it…?
The gap between those who lead the business and the coworkers who execute the ground work can be triggered by underlying issues that are more or less easy to identify…  Also, the information available to coworkers sometimes lacks the clarity and facts needed for them to be able to do the job and deliver to expectation… The business benefits and reasons behind the changes taking place can be a struggle for them to understand… which makes it even harder to connect emotionally… While leaders focus on the strategical, financial and organisational aspects of the changes – it is easy to miss the more fundamental parts… the parts that can really increase both coworker efficiency, engagement and motivation… the parts that are so often forgotten…. or ignored…

It’s quite simple really yet so obvious that it’s easy to overlook… even if it’s theoretically on the radar…
I’m talking about ‘The basics’… making sure that the very elemental parts are in place before starting the change/movement… Yes, of course the overall vision, goals and processes need to be clear and understood (really understood)… but it’s the practical things that are more likely to create interest, willingness and energy to make things happen… It’s all about having the right preconditions in place to be able to do the job… When this is working, coworkers will be in a much better position to both build trust and connect emotionally with the cause… with less convincing needed…
and less frustration added..

ifitsnotyouitsme_06.20bSo what are the basics that coworkers care about…? Some common questions that always need to be clear and understood include: ‘When do I start?’…’What kind of support will there be?’… ‘Will I have the right tools to do my tasks? ‘… ‘Will I have enough time to complete the tasks?’… ‘What systems should I use and how do they work?’… ‘Will I get training?’… ‘Will my tasks take longer or shorter time than now?’… ‘How are others doing this?’… ‘How will my efforts contribute to the big picture?’… If you then also add to that facility and logistical things such work environment, office seating, computer and phone arrangements, coffee & lunch break and areas, menus, meeting facility services – you soon realise that the ‘small’ things are in fact the ‘big’ things… and that when coworkers feel well taken care of and supported by having the basics in place – trust can start to happen and leaders will also experience a more emotional connection to the cause itself…

By planning for the practical aspects early in the process, including things like hands-on guidance and support (step-by-step guides, workshops, walking-around & drop-in-support)… and having an agile change management approach – the business processes can run smoother… avoiding unnecessary mistakes… reducing frustration and resisting… increasing acceptance, motivation and intention… strengthening team spirit and commitment… and ultimately improving the results…

For all intents and purposes, if there is one thing I have learned (the hard way) during my years of working with business change and process improvements – it’s that ”People don’t care how much you know… until they know how much you care… ”


A culture of cultures…

26 Sep

Imagine a place where all people can co-exist, respect and support each other, and strive towards a common goal… regardless of nationality, culture, religion, race, political views, or personal preferences… Could such a place even exist in our modern society…?


Considering the situation in many of the world’s countries, with increasing civil unrest and escalated violent tendencies due to political and economical challenges –  it is easy to lose faith in this ever happening… The more worried and insecure people feel with the way that their countries and societies are being led, the more frustration and animosity they will feel both towards their governments and leaders… as well as any form of change that is imposed on them without being anchored or understood… Ultimately people turn against each other…

Despite this, there is another existential dimension where everything becomes very different… where the focus completely changes… and where people join forces to work together… having the same vision of what needs to be achieved… understanding and being inspired by the reasons behind… Yes, it is possible…

I am talking about ‘Company culture’… a culture of its own… a culture of cultures which in some cases by far surpasses any multi-cultural constellation or society in the outside world… For the bigger the company and the clearer the company’s values, vision, direction, working processes and co-worker benefit programmes are – the greater the impact will be of the company culture… and the more involved, inspired, productive and loyal the individuals will be… together forming a tight and powerful allegiance… a strong force to be reckoned with… Add to that – open, honest, encouraging and supporting leadership – and you have a winning concept…

In my mind and heart, one such company is IKEA… a brand and group of companies with a solid value base… a clear and inspiring vision… and with great faith in its co-workers, realising their value and potential as human resources – providing a culture that shines bright as a guiding star for to follow…
People from everywhere unite and look beyond the differences that so often separate and alienate people in the outside world – in order to join forces to and move forward together… striving to reach the goals set by the company… believing in and trusting its leaders…

In this world, I get to meet and collaborate with people from all parts of the world…. with many different backgrounds… sharing ideas and aspirations… discussing interests and passions in life… reflecting about the company and the future… as well as supporting each other when the need is there…
In this world, ignorance is replaced with awareness and knowledge… prejudice is replaced with curiosity and tolerance… conflicts are replaced by constructive dialogue, discussing with the ability to also agree that having different opinions about something can be a great opportunity…
In this world, going to work is both fun and rewarding… it is a lot easier to get up in the morning… and more motivating to put in an additional effort and go the extra mile… to feel secure about being well taken care of…

What if the outside world could be more like the world of IKEA… what if the outside world had more visionary and inspiring leaders, who also had the ability to act in the interest of the people that they represent… what if the outside world could become better at building bridges between cultures and people and instead of increasing the gaps and distrust between them…

What if the outside world had the same vision as IKEA – To create a better everyday life for the many people… Now wouldn’t that be absolutely fabulous… ; )


How to keep your woman happy…

17 Nov

I often run into to people who are not happy in their relationships… some are men but most are women… Could this be because we have different ways of evaluating what a ’good’ relationship is…
Yes, I think so…

I believe that there are some things that we can keep in mind, and if properly applied it will not only lead to a good relationship… but a great one… However it has taken me almost 50 years to figure this out… and believe me, I started early… One could argue that since I am currently single, I apparently have not succeed fully in applying these learnings… but had I known then what I know now, my current situation would probably be different… Yet here I am, humble but firm in my views and on my own road to success… I will get there… ; )

To be fair, being single also comes with its own set of benefits… that should not to be underestimated… but it is of course the committed relationship built on love, respect, trust and understanding – that most of us are looking for in the end… So how to keep your woman happy then…? Well, I have found that looking back at past relationships there are some commonalities that have always worked well, regardless of how the relationships have ended… For me, it all boils down to 6 simple (in theory of course) steps:

  1. Who are you and why are you here?
    Make sure that you are open with who you are, what you stand for and that you are in the  relationship for the right reasons… that there really is love and a sense of belonging to together that is genuin… This will is the foundation of the relationship and you can never ignore or disguise this as time goes by… It will be the ’fuel’ that will keep the relationship moving forward… and the ’glue’ that will keep things together and take you through the ’storms’ that you will inevitably encounter together… If you are indeed not in the relationship for the right reasons, then end it fast, as it it better to make the suffering short than to prolong the pain… The truth will always reveal itself… que, next point…
  2. Be honest
    Oh yes, the truth will always reveal itself… so better to be honest from the start… tell it like it is and stand up for who you are… I find that simply telling the truth can often result in more respect and understanding in the relationship… a sense of forgiveness and increased closeness… whereas telling lies both creates strange energies, has you struggling with trying to keep your stories straight… and most importantly, if your lies are found out – it can have damaging effects on your relationship… Believe me, I have found this out the hard way… ; )
  3. Value the friendship
    I find that this part is often very underestimated… as I truly believe that a good friendship is a key part of any successful relationship… This has been confirmed over and over again when talking to couples that have been together for a long time (as well as number 1 in this list)… With good friends you have fun, talked openly, act naturally, do things together and respect each other – so why not be able to do this with your own partner…?
  4. Choose your wars
    For every ’win’ you gain in an argument or a dispute… there is always a price to pay… and quite often it can cause damage that can be hard to repair over time… especially if it is a repeated pattern in the relationship… You should choose your wars very carefully and consider the potentially negative effects that ’being right’ might have… and also challenge yourself on why it actually is so important for you to be right… I have found that most often it has more to do with our own insecurities and big egos than anything else… NOTE: It is of course also about how you say things… you can be in the right, express it with honesty and respect – and be perfectly fine… ; )
  5. Make her feel like a woman
    Get her in the mood… find out what gets her going… what excites her and makes her curious… what does and doesn’t turn her on… Make her feel like a woman… from her perspective – not yours… Never take here for granted and always make her feel safe, loved and special in your presence… And no, it is not as simple as just asking to get all the answers… since many women will find this to be too much of an ’easy win’… You actually need to find out… you need to work for it… This is done by being alert and sensitized to what she says and does… her reactions will often tell you what you need to know… you just need to listen to her… and yes, be able to ’read between the lines… que, next point…
  6. Listen to her
    Communication… now this is truly a tricky one… as men and women really do have a different vocabulary system… where the things that are said actually can mean completely different things… What we men often fail to see is that being silent and just listening is a very powerful form of communication… often much appreciated by women, at least in certain situations… Listen and observe… pay attention to the details, especially they are expressed frequently… what it really means… not just what you think it means…An example of when it is a really good idea to listen more than talk – is when she is telling you about how she feels and why… This is part of an important process… do not interupt or disturb the flow… and most of all – do not come with solutions… as this will most likely backfire… When she wants a solution, she will ask you for it… It is all about being heard, feeling respected and supported… It will most often be very appreciated and I have seen amazing things happen as a result of just going with the flow… with some very nice benefits as a result… ; )


So, for those of you who can tick all of the above boxes – congratulations… then you are part of a very fortunate minority and I commend you for your excellent work… and I’m sure you would agree that it is all quite simple in theory… but not always so easy in practice…

However, no matter how hard it may seem – the rest of us should never stop trying… for we all need as much love and happiness as we can get… ; )


Understanding women: Part 4…

26 Jul

Ever wonder what a woman’s ideal characteristics for a man are… yeah, me too…

1. It’s important to find a man that helps out with the household work, who cooks and cleans.

2. It’s important to find a man who can make you laugh.

3. It’s important to find a man who has a good job.

4. It’s important to find a man who you can trust and who doesn’t lie.

5. It’s important to find a man who loves to cuddle with you.

…and most of all, it’s important that these five men don’t know each other… ; )

Love and respect… ; )


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The Man rules: Part 4…

26 Jul

 Know any guys who fit the bill…?

  1. Never join your girlfriend in ragging on a buddy of yours, unless she is withholding sex, pending your response.
  2. Women who claim they ”love to watch sports” must be treated as spies until they demonstrate knowledge of the game and the ability to pick a Buffalo wing clean.
  3. Any dispute lasting any longer than 3 minutes will and must be settled by rock, paper, scissors.
    There is no argument too important for this determining method.
  4. You have not made any mistake if you find that there are extra pieces after assembling an object.
    In fact, you have just found a way to make that object more efficient.
  5. Phrases that should preferably not be uttered to another man while lifting weights:
    ”Yeah baby, push it!”
    ”Come on, give me one more, harder!”
    ”Another set and we can hit the showers!”
  6. Never allow a telephone conversation with a woman to go on longer than you are able to have sex with her. Keep a stopwatch nearby, hang up if necessary.

Ouch… ; )

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Understanding women: Part 3…

25 Jul

Whatever you give a woman, she will multiply it…
Could be good to keep in mind guys…

1. If you give her sperm, she’ll give you a baby.

2. If you give her a house, she’ll give you a home.

3. If you give her groceries, she’ll give you a meal.

4. If you give her a smile, she’ll give you her heart.

A woman multiplies and enlarges what is given to her.
So – if you give her any crap, she’ll give a ton of shit… ; )

Love and respect… ; )


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The Man rules: Part 3…

25 Jul

Some more dude rules… more or less applicable…

  1. Let us ogle. We are going to look anyway – it’s genetic.
  2. The maximum amount of time a woman should have to wait for a man is 5 minutes. For a woman, you are required to wait 10 minutes for every point of hotness she scores on the classic 1-10 scale.
  3. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done, not both. If you already know best how to do it – just do it yourself.
  4. We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not because we don’t care about you.
  5. If we ask what is wrong and you say ”nothing”, we will act like nothing’s wrong.
    We know you’re lying, but it’s just not worth the hassle.
  6. You may exaggerate any anecdote told to your friends by 50%. Beyond that anyone is allowed to yell out ”bullshit!”. (exception: when trying to pick up a woman, the allowable exaggeration rate is then 400%).

He, he, he… guilty to some of these I’m afraid… ; )


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Understanding women: Part 2…

24 Jul

I never understood why women love cats…

1. Cats are independent.

2. They don’t listen.

3. They don’t come in when you call them.

4. They like to stay out all night.

5. When they’re home they like to be left alone and sleep.

In other words, every quality that women hate in a man,
they love in a cat… ; )

Love and respect… ; )


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The Man rules: Part 2…

24 Jul

A bit of fun with some real ‘dude’ rules…

  1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That’s what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
  2. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. Please see a doctor.
  3. Check the oil in the car! Please.
  4. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days.
  5. If you won’t dress like the Victoria’s Secret girls, don’t expect us to act like soap opera guys.
  6. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.

Ha, ha, ha… well dude, you can now remove the pack of socks from your underwear… ; )


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Understanding women: Part 1…

23 Jul

Ever wonder why there are so many misunderstandings between men and women…?

Well, for one thing we have different vocabularies… some words and the way we say them – simply mean different things to us… Here are a few examples:

This is the word a woman will use to end an argument when she knows she’s RIGHT and YOU need to SHUT UP.

Means SOMETHING and you need to be WORRIED.

This is a dare, not permission – do NOT do it.

Is a woman’s way of saying SCREW YOU.

She’s thinking long and hard about HOW & WHEN you will pay for your mistake.

Aha, well that sure makes things a lot clearer…

Love and respect… ; )


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